Uyakholelwa emandleni okucabanga okuhle? Abantu abaningi abenza iziqinisekiso zenjabulo noma ukuzikhulumela okulungile bangase bakucabange njengendlela yokuthuthukisa isimo sabo sengqondo noma ukubasiza bazizwe bengcono. Nokho, kunokuningi ekucabangeni okuhle kunokumane uzizwe ukahle okwamanje. Isayensi ibonise ukuthi le ndlela yokucabanga ingabuyisela ubuchopho bakho ukuze uthole injabulo yesikhathi eside nempumelelo.
Ukucabanga okuhle kungaphezu nje kokucabanga nje, kuyisayensi esifundwe yafakazelwa ukuthi iyasebenza. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukuba nombono oqondile kungasiza ukuthuthukisa isimo sakho sengqondo, ukunciphisa amazinga okucindezeleka, futhi kuthuthukise impilo yonke engokomzimba nengqondo. Ukwengeza, labo abanomqondo omuhle bavame ukugqugquzelwa futhi bakhiqize, okuholela empumelelweni enkulu empilweni yabo yomuntu siqu neyomsebenzi.
Ngakho-ke ungakuhlanganisa kanjani ukucabanga okuhle empilweni yakho futhi uvuselele ingqondo yakho ukuze uthole injabulo eyengeziwe? Enye indlela yokuqala iwukuprakthiza ukucabanga nokubonga. Ukuzinika isikhathi sokugxila esikhathini samanje nokwazisa lokho onakho kungasiza ukuthuthukisa isimo sakho sengqondo kanye nombono wakho wokuphila. Enye indlela yokuchitha isikhathi nabantu abalungile abakusekelayo nabakukhuthazayo. Amandla e-positivity ayathelelana, futhi ukuzizungeza nabantu abakuphakamisayo kungakusiza ugcine isimo sengqondo esihle.
Ukuze uvuselele ingqondo yakho ukuze uthole injabulo, kubalulekile ukugxila ekukhulumeni okuhle kanye nengxoxo yangaphakathi. Lokhu kusho ukuqaphela imicabango engemihle futhi esikhundleni sayo ufake iziqinisekiso ezinhle. Esikhundleni sokucabanga ukuthi “angikwazi ukwenza lokhu,” shintsha umqondo wakho uthi “ngiyakwazi ukufeza izinhloso zami.” Ngokuhlela kabusha imicabango engemihle ibe eyakhayo, ungakwazi ukuqeqesha ubuchopho bakho ukuba bugxile kulokho okungenzeka kunokulinganiselwa.
Ukucabanga okuhle akuwona nje umqondo ongenalutho, kuyisayensi efakazelwe engasiza ukuthuthukisa inhlalakahle yakho nempumelelo yakho yonke empilweni. Ngokuzijwayeza ukucabangela, ukubonga, kanye nokuzikhulumela okulungile, ungavuselela ingqondo yakho ukuze uthole umbono omuhle kakhudlwana. Khumbula, injabulo akuyona nje indawo kodwa uhambo, futhi ukucabanga okuhle kungakusiza ukujabulele ukugibela.
