Uvelwano kukukwazi ukuqonda nokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zabanye. Bubuchule obubalulekileyo ekwakheni unxibelelwano olunzulu nabo basingqongileyo. Xa sinovelwano, siyakwazi ukunxulumana nabanye kumgangatho onzulu, sidale imvakalelo yokubandakanyeka kwaye someleze ubudlelwane bethu. Nanga amanye amacebiso okuqhelisela uvelwano kubomi bemihla ngemihla.
1. Phulaphula ngenyameko
Enye yezona nkalo zibalulekileyo zovelwano kukuphulaphula ngenyameko. Oku kuthetha ukugxila kwisithethi kunye nokuzama ukuqonda imbono yabo. Kuphephe ukubaphazamisa okanye ukucinga ngempendulo yakho. Kunoko, banike ingqalelo yakho epheleleyo kwaye uzame ukuqonda apho bavela khona.
2. Zibeke ezihlangwini zabo
Ukuqonda ngokwenene iimvakalelo zomnye umntu, kuyanceda ukuba uzicingele kwindawo akuyo. Oku akuthethi ukucinga ukuba uyazi kakuhle into abatyhubela kuyo, kodwa uzama ukujonga izinto ngokwembono yabo. Zibuze ukuba ubuya kuvakalelwa njani ukuba ubukwimeko yabo.
3. Ziqonde iimvakalelo zabo
Xa umntu esabelana nawe ngeemvakalelo zakhe, kubalulekile ukuvuma nokuqinisekisa iimvakalelo zabo. Oku kunokuba lula njengokuthi “Ndiyayiqonda indlela oziva ngayo” okanye “Oko kumele ukuba kunzima kuwe”. Ukubazisa ukuba ulapho kubo kunokuhamba indlela ende ekwakheni ukuthembana kunye nokukhuthaza unxibelelwano olunzulu.
4. Yiba khona kwaye ungagwebi
Uvelwano lufuna ukuba sibekho ngalo mzuzu kwaye sikhululeke ekugwebeni. Xa umntu esabelana nathi ngeemvakalelo zakhe, kubalulekile ukubakho ngokupheleleyo nangomzuzu. Zama ukuyeka naziphi na iimbono okanye ucalucalulo osele ucingelwe ngaphambili, kwaye ngokulula ube lapho kubo ngalo mzuzu.
Ukuqukumbela, uvelwano sisixhobo esinamandla esinokusinceda sakhe unxibelelwano olunzulu nabanye. Ngokumamela ngenkuthalo, sizibeke ezicathulweni zabo, sivume iimvakalelo zabo, kwaye sibekho kwaye singagwebi, sinokwenza umoya wokuziva singabanye kwaye sikhuthaze ubudlelwane obomeleleyo. Khumbula, uvelwano sisakhono esinokuqheliselwa kwaye siphuculwe ekuhambeni kwexesha.
