Ukuzihawukela ngokuvamile akuqondwa njengokuwubugovu noma ukuzitika. Nokho, eqinisweni, kusho ukuba nomusa, ukuqonda, nokuzinakekela, njengoba singenza kumngane obhekene nesikhathi esinzima. Ngokocwaningo, ukuzizwela kuye kwatholakala kunenzuzo ezicini ezihlukahlukene zokuphila, kuhlanganise nempilo engcono yengqondo, amazinga aphansi okucindezeleka, nokuqina okwengeziwe ekubhekaneni nezinselele. Nawa amanye amathiphu okuthi ungakuhlakulela kanjani uzwela empilweni yakho.
1. Zijwayeze ukuqaphela
Ukucabangela kuwumkhuba wokuba khona, ukwazi, nokungahluleli imicabango, imizwa, kanye nemizwa yethu. Ngokuqaphela, singakwazi ukubona futhi sivume imizwa yethu ngaphandle kokubambeka kuyo. Lokhu kusivumela ukuba siphendule ngokwethu ngomusa nangokuqonda, kunokuba sigxeke ngokhahlo noma sizehlulele. Ukuzijwayeza ukucabangela kungase kube lula njengokuthatha ukuphefumula okumbalwa futhi ugxile esikhathini samanje, noma kungase kuhlanganise izinqubo zokuzindla ezihlelekile.
2. Ziphathe ngendlela obungenza ngayo kumngane wakho
Abaningi bethu bavame ukuba nzima kakhulu kithi ngokwethu kunokuba besingaba kumngane. Sivame ukucabanga ukuthi ukuziqinisa kuzosikhuthaza ukuthi sisebenze kanzima futhi senze kangcono. Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukuzigxeka kungaholela ekunciphiseni ukuzethemba kanye namazinga aphezulu okucindezeleka. Kunalokho, zama ukuziphathisa ngendlela obungenza ngayo kumngane wakho. Cabanga ukuthi ubungathini kumngane obhekene nakho, futhi uzinikeze lelo zinga elifanayo lomusa nokuqonda.
3. Zijayeze
Ukuzinakekela kusho ukunakekela impilo yakho engokomzimba, engokomzwelo, nengokwengqondo. Kuhilela ukukhetha okondla umzimba wakho, ingqondo, nomphefumulo wakho, njengokulala ngokwanele, ukudla ukudla okunempilo, ukwenza izinto ozithandayo, nokufuna usizo lapho uludinga. Ukuzijwayeza ukuzinakekela kungakusiza uzizwe ufaneleka kakhudlwana futhi ufanelwe ububele futhi kungasekela ikhono lakho lokubonisa ububele kuwena.
4. Qaphela futhi uphonsele inselelo izwi lakho elingaphakathi elibucayi
Sonke sinomgxeki wangaphakathi - lelo zwi emakhanda ethu elisitshela ukuthi asilungile ngokwanele, asihlakaniphe ngokwanele, noma asifaneleki ngokwanele. Kungaba inselele ukuqaphela leli zwi ngoba ngokuvamile liyazenzakalela futhi libe umkhuba. Nokho, ngokuqaphela nokubekela le micabango ebucayi inselele, singaqala ukugqashula ekubambeni kwayo. Enye indlela yokwenza lokhu iwukuzibuza, “Ingabe lo mbono uyiqiniso?” noma “Yibuphi ubufakazi enginabo bokusekela lo mbono?” Ngokubekela le micabango inselele, singayishintsha sicabangele ezozwela futhi engokoqobo.
Ekugcineni, ukuhlakulela ububele kudinga isikhathi, umzamo, nokuprakthiza. Kodwa-ke, izinzuzo zokuba nobudlelwano obuhle nokuqondayo nathi ziningi futhi zingaba nomthelela omuhle kuzo zonke izici zempilo yethu. Ngokuhlanganisa lawa macebiso ezinhlelweni zethu zansuku zonke, singafunda ukuziphatha ngozwelo nokunakekela okufanayo ebesingakunikeza umngane.
